Rory has to prove herself at her new school. She really has to study to be at the top of her class so that she can fulfill her dream of going to Harvard. She has an exam on Shakespeare that is very important to her grade in her English class, so she and Lorelai spend the week cramming for the exam. They cram so hard the night before that they both oversleep. Rory has missed her bus to Hartford and Lorelai has a meeting at the Inn at 8. Both frantic, Lorelai tells Rory to take her car to Hartford. Rory hurries, but while at a stop sign, a deer hits the car, making Rory even more late than she already was. By the time Rory reaches Chilton, the exam has already begun, and she is informed that she is not eligible to take the exam. A hilarious hissy-fit ensues from Rory, followed by another one (this time by Lorelai) in Headmaster Charles’ office. Headmaster Charles tells Lorelai that exceptions will not be made for Rory (regardless of the deer), and perhaps Rory is not meant to be at Chilton or go to Harvard. Lorelai then questions Rory if she actually wants to go to Harvard, or is it because it’s what Lorelai wants for her. She tells Rory that there is no pressure if she were to want to leave Chilton. Rory assures Lorelai that Harvard is her own choice, and she will not be defeated by Chilton. Ultimately, Rory’s English teacher, Mr. Madena, calls to tell Rory that she’ll be allowed extra credit work to make up for the missed exam.
We’ve all heard the phrase “pick your battles.” I am not saying that Rory and Lorelai chose the wrong battle, but more they accepted that they lost it is commendable. How Rory handled it is even more commendable. She could have let this missed exam defeat her, but she did not. She chose to keep headstrong even though she was told that she would probably never make it. Isn’t that a wonderful way to be? Sometimes I forget that even though I am defeated by some situations that I am only fighting battles. I have not lost the war yet. Look at Rory; in the end she was accepted to both Harvard AND Yale. Maybe we all aren’t working toward ivy league schools, but we are fighting in the war of life (stop laughing at the cliche). So next time you feel discouraged, remember it’s only a deer in the car door.
At Friday Night Dinner, Rory announces that she must take on type of athletic sport class at Chilton. Over much debate, the Gilmores say Rory should take on Golf. This is of course decided because Richard Gilmore’s favorite sport is golf. At this point, Rory and Richard are distant, and Emily insists that Richard take Rory to “the club” to play golf. Richard has his reservations, but promises Emily that he’ll be pleasant.
This, of course, sends Lorelai into a panic. Her daughter is about to spend an entire day with the very people Lorelai despises: her own parents. The always polite Rory sucks it up and prepares to spend the day with her grandfather. And wouldn’t you know, the two actually have a lot in common. The day ends with Rory and Richard taking on not only the role of grandfather/granddaughter, but as friends. You can imagine Lorelai’s shock as she learns of this, and it does not settle with her well. She has an unexplained lashing out at Rory all because she couldn’t stand the fact that Rory could possibly like the people she didn’t. Lorelai finally sees the error of her ways and apologizes to Rory, letting her know that it is okay to have a relationship with her grandparents.
We’ve all been in this situation. Our friend develops a new friend who we cannot stand even for a second. Sometimes it’s hard because you feel you are tearing your friend in two different directions. So you start to avoid them. You judge them for things you normally would not have before. But for what? To ruin a great relationship? As we see with Lorelai and Rory, the deterioration of a friendship is not worth it. It is okay that you and a friend (or daughter, or boyfriend, or mother) have different taste in people. It does not have to reflect on the relationship you have built. After all, Richard and Emily are not so bad and provide some pretty good laughs.
In the humorous second episode of the first season, it is Rory’s first day at her new school, Chilton. Of course, Lorelai oversleeps, giving her hardly any time to get ready…and discover she has no clean clothes. Perhaps this entry should be titled “Set Your Alarm AND Do Your Laundry.” All that Lorelai can find in time to wear is a pair of Daisy Dukes and a hot pink t-shirt. She thinks she can get away with this by throwing a long coat over her ensemble, but her plan is quickly foiled when Headmaster Charles demands she take her coat off in his warm office. Embarrassment ensues and first impressions are made (much to Rory’s dismay).
Doing your laundry sounds simple enough. Sure, it sucks to do it, but in the end it has to be done. What we learn from Lorelai, though, is procrastinated it will only lead to problems. This can be said for anything. Lorelai went to bed the night before knowing that the next day was her daughter’s big day, but she still didn’t do the laundry. What was she going to do? Get up early and do a load before they had to be in Hartford at 8 am? We all know this is not the case. Most likely she had forgotten about her laundry. But that is what happens when we procrastinate.
Last semester, I had procrastinated a 8 page paper for a professor. It was not until 10 pm the night before it was due that I had to hand it in that I realized I really needed to do it. Needless to say I had to pull an all-nighter. I cannot imagine how much better that paper would have been had I not procrastinated doing it. I cannot imagine how much better of an impression my professor would have of me had I spent more time on it.
It may seem that I am going off on a tangent, but it all goes back to Lorelai’s procrastination. Have you ever seen Lorelai forgetting to do the laundry again? No. The lesson here is procrastination is not key, and Daisy Dukes do not go with private schools.
It is in the Pilot episode of Gilmore Girls that we are introduced to the quirky characters of Stars Hallow, as well as Lorelai’s parents, Richard and Emily. Rory is accepted to the elite private school, Chilton, which comes with a hefty price tag. The price tag is so hefty that Lorelai herself cannot come up with the payment that is required immediately. After trying to come up with every possible way to pay, Lorelai breaks down and goes to her last resort: her parents. It becomes obvious that Lorelai does not have a good relationship with her parents, thus the sting of this request. The Gilmores agree to loan Lorelai the money, but there is a string attached. Lorelai and Rory must come to dinner at the Gilmores’ every Friday night, thus begins the series’ infamous “Friday Night Dinners.” As we see at the first dinner, this stipulation pains Lorelai to the core. But it is a bargain she keeps for the benefit of Rory’s education.
We see just how much pride Lorelai really has. At dinner, Lorelai and Emily get into a fight over Lorelai making a life for herself without her parents’ help. Emily points out how much pride Lorelai really has. But does that pride go to benefit the life of Rory? It is obvious that it does not. Had Lorelai not put her pride aside in effort to excel Rory’s education, who knows how Rory’s future might have been?
Sometimes we must put our pride aside, and it is not always as easy as it seems. But we must consider the benefits of stepping down from our pedestal. How can it help us in the long run? Will our future be for the better?
Consider Lorelai’s lesson next time you come in conflict with your pride.